Unhook from relationship patterns that keep you stuck
You deserve relationships that feel safe, connected, and reciprocal. Through the lens of attachment theory and boundaries work, I help you understand your patterns, communicate your needs, and create the love you want.
Does any of this feel familiar?
You're not broken. These are patterns ... and patterns can change.
Anxious in Relationships
You overanalyze texts, fear abandonment, and struggle to feel secure even when things are going well.
Boundaries Feel Impossible
You say yes when you mean no, over-give to avoid conflict, and end up resentful and drained.
Stuck in the Same Cycle
Different person, same dynamic. You keep attracting unavailable partners or repeating painful patterns.
Dating Feels Exhausting
You're tired of situationships, mixed signals, and wondering if you'll ever find someone who truly shows up.
Healing from a Breakup
You're grieving a relationship and struggling to process the loss, make sense of what happened, or move forward.
Struggling with Overfunctioning
You carry the emotional weight in your relationships, do all the planning and caretaking, and crave reciprocity but don't know how to stop being the one who holds it all together.
The Six Pillars of Reciprocal Relationships
After 16 years of working with clients, six themes kept surfacing as the foundation of every healthy, lasting connection. This is the map I use with my clients. It's a roadmap with room for error and room for humanity, and a way to know where you are when the relationship feels off.
Shared Vision
Alignment on what you're both creating. Without it, nothing else holds.
Reliability & Vulnerability
Showing up consistently, and revealing yourself in doses you can tolerate.
Expressed Admiration
Speaking love in your partner's language, and celebrating their wins out loud.
Repair Skills
Knowing how you rupture, and how to come back without collapsing into shame.
Shared Power
Fairness that's felt, not just claimed. Both needs tended, continuously renegotiated.
Healthy Separateness
A rich life beyond the relationship: your own hobbies, friends, and support.
How We Can Work Together
Personalized support for wherever you are on your journey.
1:1 Relationship Coaching
Uncover your attachment patterns, strengthen your boundaries, and learn communication skills that help you feel seen and supported while honoring the people you care for. For individuals, not couples.
Book Free ConsultationVIP Dating Coaching
Six months of high-touch, individualized support. Weekly 50-minute calls plus daily voice messaging access so I can guide you in real time as you date with confidence and intention.
Learn MoreReady to stop the cycle?
Your free 30-minute consultation is a chance to share what you're going through and see if coaching is the right fit. No pressure, just clarity.
Book Your Free CallHow It Works
Getting started is simple. Three steps to the support you deserve.
Book a Free Call
Schedule a free 30-minute consultation. We'll talk about what you're going through and explore whether coaching is the right fit.
Create Your Plan
Together we'll identify your patterns, set your goals, and design a personalized coaching journey tailored to your needs.
Transform Your Relationships
Through regular coaching sessions, you'll build the skills and self-awareness to create the connected, fulfilling relationships you want.
Hi, I'm Silvy
At 25, I faced a crossroads: continue pursuing my acting career (I had just booked a role on CSI Miami) or follow a call toward deep inner work. I chose the harder path ... and it changed everything.
That journey led me to a Master's degree in Psychology, licensure as a therapist, my own deep healing, and over sixteen years of helping hundreds of people through their relationship patterns, attachment wounds, and boundary struggles.
I know what it feels like to be disconnected from yourself and the people around you. And I know the way back. Through Attachment Theory and Boundaries Work, I help people build the kind of relationships they actually want to be in.
- MA in Psychology, Licensed Therapist (NY)
- 16+ years coaching & therapy experience
- Specializing in Attachment Theory & Boundaries
- Featured in Forbes, Vogue, Cosmopolitan, Women's Health
What Clients Are Saying
I honestly can't find the words to express just how much you've helped me grow, not just in one area, but in every part of my life. Your guidance has been a true gift and I'm so incredibly grateful!
Working with Silvy was instrumental in navigating a significant life transition. She positively impacted how I navigated my separation and guided me to a new way of realizing and expressing boundaries. I am grateful for the beautiful support.
I've worked with many coaches and therapists, and Silvy is uniquely well versed with boundary, attachment, and relational coaching. She very quickly identified and reframed core growth opportunities for me, and was thoughtful about personalizing our sessions.
Your warm and caring coaching style made the sessions very comforting and productive. Your presence allowed for emotions to surface and to be heard in a safe, loving space. The exercises gave me clarity in moving forward with dating.
I came wanting to learn about validating others' pain, but left having learned so much more. I discovered how emotional wounds from our past trigger us in the present, and that understanding was incredibly valuable. I also learned to let love come to me, which it did, when I decided to be consistently myself.
I am deeply thankful for your teachings Silvy and thank you for helping this man nurture his inner child to now be able to open up a greater vision for his future.
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Love With Integrity is a supportive community for people committed to healthier relationships. Get access to all of my courses, connect with others on the same journey, and grow together with guidance every step of the way.
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Attachment 101
Explore attachment theory through video lessons, worksheets, and meditations.
Empowered Dating
Date with confidence and create satisfying love through this self-paced course.
The Boundaries Course
Learn to set and hold healthy boundaries in all your relationships.
Conflict to Connection
Transform conflict into deeper understanding and connection.
Navigating Power Struggles
Recognize and move through the power dynamics that erode intimacy.
Navigating Endings
Process and make sense of your breakup with this guided workbook.
12 Months of Self-Discovery
Over 150 pages of guided journaling prompts with nature-inspired illustrations by artist Neda Kerendian. Follow a 12-month soul journey through the seasons, clarify your values and boundaries, process emotions, and build a deeper relationship with yourself.
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You deserve relationships that feel like home
Stop waiting for things to change on their own. Whether you're navigating dating, healing from a breakup, or trying to break free from old patterns ... your next chapter starts with one conversation.
Currently accepting new clients for spring 2026. Questions? Email info@silvykhoucasian.com